i'm a tough guy. i don't need anyone. People and relationships mean nothing to me because i am an island. i can do it alone and i can do it better when i am alone. Having someone else in my life just slows me down. If i could just have some peace and quiet with myself things would be so much better.Who am i kidding? i am smitten. i am in deep smit over my wife. See this picture? This is us on our wedding day. Some people talk about how their wedding day was the beginning of the end for them. That once you say, "I do", you say, "Yes dear" the rest of your life. Thankfully, my marriage to Angela has been the beginning of a great life.
This has all been pushed to the forefront of my mind since we have been apart for four days. i know four days isn't a lot but that is the reason for my post. She completes me. i have heard it said before that you need to be a complete person before you can really appreciate the person you are going to marry. That you need to "figure yourself out" before you can really be in a place to love someone until you can do that. To some extent there is a maturing that each person needs to go through before they can be ready but some people complicate it to much. For me, i was 28 when i met Angela and it was not a day too soon. Looking back, i can see that God had His hand in the whole thing.
My whole life i had been thinking that i was going to be an island for the rest of my life and that if i married that we would be co-habitating and working towards similar but different goals. How wonderfully wrong i was. In reality she and i are working towards the same goal and we are team members trying to acheive that which the Lord has set before us. We work in lock step and if the other is weaker that day the other pulls the weight. She completes me.
Tomorrow, i will drive to pick up Angela, Gloria and Bernadette. i love Gloria and Bernie with all my heart but when i have Angela in my arms again, then i will be complete.
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Hey, good job on designing the blog. Those pictures are great and Gloria is sooooo cute! :)
As your friend, it has been my pleasure to participate in so much of your life, chillin' in college, visiting each other on opposite coasts, an usher in your wedding, theological discussions, etc.
When I was a child, people told me that "you can do that when you're an adult", when I was an adult and worked part time, people told me, "you need to have a full-time job", when I as a single person in the church, people told me I should be married, when I was married, people told me I needed children, does it stop?
I am not criticizing, because i agree with the premise of completion, but theologically how does it fit into the paradigm of the 'body of Christ'? Also, if we live in the 'new creation', i.e. the reign of God on the earth, then how does that look for marriage? Sometimes because of divorce, violence, etc.; The Church has elevated marriage above The Church itself, which I am wondering why?
Stanley Grenz, an amazing theologian who teaches at Regent in Vancouver, BC; for you Canadians.:)
He say's that the Community of God, the Church is established so that we will have structure to live, get married, redeem social structures, etc.
I posted a blog on my post entitled MVP vs. Culture of Church, where I talked about marriage, what do you think? I am not saying I am right, but love the dialogue.
So, when are you going to post again? I wanted to suggest that you should make an announcement in your church to let people know that they can post on your blog, which I have found helps to formulate thoughts about the gospel and the kingdom. Just food for thought, because I would also like to know what people think in your church. :)
I want to say that my friends, Troy and Angela Wilcox are sincerely two of the most trustworthy, loyal, and gracious friends that we know. It has been my pleasure to know Troy for the past fifteen years, as well as Angela for the past four years. Thank you for being who God created you to be.
Your friend, Paul and Kelly Pace
Right back at ya, Paul. We love you very much and are proud to call you and your wife friends.
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